Dr. Alexis Wilbert is a medical psychologist in Yarmouth. She says for starters, it is OK to set boundaries.
YARMOUTH, Maine — The election is actually the dominating matter of dialogue proper now and it’ll doubtless proceed to be within the days forward.
For assistance on methods to navigate these discussions with household, buddies, and others, Dr. Alexis Wilbert, a medical psychologist in Yarmouth, gives some essential issues to bear in mind.
For starters, she says it is OK to set boundaries.
“The largest factor is there could also be some boundaries which can be no-gos for you,” Wilbert stated.
She says it is essential to acknowledge that there could also be some matters or points which can be so essential to you that you just will be unable to see eye to eye with somebody about it.
“And that is OK,” she added.
She says one other essential factor to bear in mind is that you could take a break from the political discussions.
“If you happen to’re speaking to any individual and you feel too overwhelmed otherwise you discover they’re feeling actually overwhelmed and also you simply really feel such as you’re not getting wherever then agree ‘hey let’s pause this dialog, we’re not getting wherever proper now.'”
Nevertheless, the dialog must be paused for an additional time if attainable. If you happen to vow to by no means discuss it once more with that individual it may well “really feel very jarring and really feel like a rupture within the relationship,” Dr. Wilbert defined.
She says the purpose is to have a civil dialog about politics and to type some reference to the opposite individual.
“If you happen to go in with that purpose in thoughts that is going to have issues find yourself just a little bit in another way.”
Wilbert says there is a large distinction between a “debate” and a “dialogue.”
“A debate is you are making an attempt to get any individual to see your opinion. You are making an attempt to be proper. A dialogue is listening for understanding and ideally, that is what we need to have particularly with family members,” she stated.
On this time of a pandemic, a lot of what we do and the way we work together is on-line. A political dialog is one which must be had over the telephone, or Zoom, if attainable.
“I’d say if attainable don’t do it on social media,” she stated.
“For essentially the most half I believe making an attempt to have a dialogue, not a debate, goes to be actually essential.”
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